Grindr has been around long enough to create its own category of cliches and tropes.
By Henry Giardina
Grindr has been around long enough to create its own category of cliches and tropes. But does knowing that stop anyone from falling straight into them? Not really. Even if you spend hours trying to think of the perfect opener, it’s easy enough to fall back on the old reliable “Into?” or “Hung?”
Maybe they’re not the most chivalrous ways to start a conversation, but damned if they don’t work out just fine much of the time.
Recently, when content creator Jeff Thurm got together with a group of friends, the conversation turned to Grindr dos and don’ts. They quickly learned something interesting: even the tactics we know to be cringey are still the ones we’re likely to go to.
“Welcome to my new series, ‘confessions of things we all do on Grindr but are too afraid to admit,’” he says. First up? Texting someone a million times when they’re not responding.
“When you see that and it’s like ‘hey man’, ‘hey man,’ ‘hey man,’ you’re like come on, buddy, I’m clearly not interested!’”
So why do we do it ourselves when the ball is in the other court? Are we all hypocrites—or just delusional?
“If I’m ignored once, I play it off as ‘maybe they weren’t in the mood,’” one commenter wrote. “But twice is where I have to accept reality and not embarrass myself further.”
